What is it to be mentally strong? The author Amy Morin indicates, in her book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do", what habits, thoughts and behaviors you should avoid to become mentally strong, besides sharing some everyday truths.
We see a great appreciation of physical activity around the world. Gyms, sports championships, fitness lifestyle... Of course, they are very important and integrate a healthy life.
On the other hand, few people are concerned about becoming mentally strong, and the benefits of this are reflected in all other spheres of life, such as willingness to work, motivation to face challenges and a greater determination to achieve objectives.
So, check out this summary to find out how to strengthen yourself mentally and get ready to achieve all the goals in your life!
The book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do", by Amy Morin, was released in 2015 and is 272 pages long.
Its conception occurred in a peculiar way. After overcoming a serious personal crisis, the psychotherapist wrote on her blog a post about the main characteristics of people who manage to face difficulties without letting themselves down.
The article went viral and was read by more than 10 million people in a week. In this work, the author deepens her thesis and presents research, true stories and practical strategies. As a result: now you can reprogram the harmful habits that have been compromising your health, productivity and well-being.
Amy Morin was born in Scotland, UK, and is a psychotherapist, social worker and writer. She is known for her books which, among other things, offer solutions to increase mental strength, gain confidence and make better choices.
In 2015, Morin gave a lecture at TEDx on "The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong" (available on YouTube). It presents strategies for abandoning unhealthy habits that drain one's mental strength.
In addition to this book, Amy Morin is the author of other works such as "13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don't Do" and "13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don't Do". Besides, her books have already been translated into 35 languages.
According to the author Amy Morin, the book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" is "for all who seek to be better today than they were yesterday". This work strongly contributes to the career of professionals in search of success and mindset change.
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According to Amy Morin, you must not feel sorry for yourself under any circumstances. If you do that, besides wasting time, you'll be multiplying negative emotions.
The result will be disastrous: you will damage your relationships as a whole, personal and professional.
The author says in her book, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do", that:
"Feeling sorry for yourself is self-destructive. Giving oneself to self-pity makes it difficult to live a full life."
The author Amy Morin believes that people give up their power when there are no clear physical and emotional limits.
In this way, you should not allow others to control your actions, or they will also define your success and self-esteem. So keep track of your personal goals and work to achieve them.
Yes, you should not be afraid of changes in your personal or professional life. After all, everything changes all the time, and if you don't adapt, you'll be outdated. In the Amy Morin's words, "other people will overcome you."
According to the book, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do", there are five stages of change:
Trying to control everything all the time is the biggest problem for anxious people. Check out the main points highlighted by the author Amy Morin in this regard:
Have you ever heard that saying, "Not even Jesus pleased everyone"?
That's right. Amy Morin reminds us that we often care too much what others think about us. She lists in her book, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do", four facts about trying to be a person who pleases others:
It's okay that you're afraid to take some risks, but sometimes it's necessary. To face the challenge, according to the author Amy Morin, is very simple: you must have knowledge.
"Lack of knowledge about how to calculate risk leads to increased fear."
What you've been through, you've been through. Amy Amorim teaches us that to dwell on the past can be self-destructive. Moreover, this way of life will prevent you from enjoying the present and planning for the future.
The author states in her book, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do", that:
"Reflecting on the lessons learned, considering the facts and not the emotions, and looking at the situation from a new perspective can be useful."
To make a mistake once is to learn, twice... Well, it's very important that you reflect on your past mistakes. This is how you become a mentally strong person: accept responsibility by the mistake and create a plan to avoid making the same mistakes in the future.
"Resentment is like anger that remains hidden and stored," says Amy Morin.
So focusing on or envying someone else's success will get you nowhere, quite the contrary. You will end up deviating from your own mission and your own path.
So ask yourself what's best for you... What makes you happy... Value your own talents and skills, focus on your own values and relationships, and be yourself.
Actually, nobody likes to fail. It's painful. On the other hand, the author Amy Morin teaches us that success is not immediate, and failure will most often be an obstacle that you will have to overcome.
According to the book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do", a mentally strong person accepts failure because knows that she/he is good enough to persist and do better next time. In fact:
"Rising again after a failure will make it stronger."
Loneliness is different from being alone. Faced with this, the author Amy Morin proposes an experience: why not take some time to keep only your own thoughts?
One of the steps of a mentally strong person is to set aside a some time apart of everyday life to focus on their personal and professional growth.
The book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" cites some benefits of being alone:
Sometimes you can be angry with the world because you haven't achieved what you wanted or achieved success. When that happens, remember that no one is entitled to anything. Everything in this world must be conquered.
Amy Morin observes:
"Life was not made to be fair."
So concentrate on your efforts, accept the criticism and acknowledge your failures. Besides, don't compare yourself to others: you may end up disappointed when you don't receive what the world owes you.... And of course the world owes you nothing.
The author Amy Morin explains in her book, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do", that you must not have absurd expectations. On the contrary, with your feet on the ground, be realistic. Develop the understanding that success doesn't happen overnight and so you will develop your full potential.
That's right, mentally strong people aren't impatient.
So have your long-term goals and work relentlessly. Be assured that not everything will turn out the way you expect, but it's okay. Be patient, because life always suprehends.
In Tony Robbins's "Awaken the Giant Within", there are also great lessons about life changes, which, according to the author, depend only on the initial decision to change. As such, the book outlines lessons about self-control and how these lessons can help you achieve your personal goals.
In the book "Mindset", by psychologist Carol S. Dweck, it is debated how our beliefs shape our behavior and our growth. While mindsets produce definite world views, people can change by learning new skills. Human beings can be taught to react in different ways, how to face challenges and think differently.
Finally, in the work "Winning", Jack Welch approaches that we must always seek quality in our professional life. If you are not satisfied with your job, find a job that provides enthusiasm for your career, it is very important that you do not settle down and leave the comfort zone.
But when looking for a job, analyze the company as a whole: your team, tasks, salary, career plan and more. And, when starting a new job, try to exceed all expectations, always give your best!
Now that you know the main points of Amy Morin's book, "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do", how about applying them in your life?
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