You may know the story of Cinderella. This Disney's fairy tale is a story of jealousy, virtues and sufferings of Cinderella and hostility of her older sisters.
It has won over many generations and everyone who believes that a humiliated being will rise and win and also that kindness and virtue not only have to be rewarded but also recognized.
It may seem like just another cliché fairy tale, but it makes a lot of sense. Anthropology says that the human being is a reciprocal being, that is, we return in equal proportion what is given to us.
In "The Kind Leader," you will see how reciprocity creates strong leaders who can and should be kind. Are you ready to discover the power of kind leadership? Then let's go!
The book "The Kind Leader: A Practical Guide to Eliminating Fear, Creating Trust, and Leading with Kindness" was published on September 10, 2021 by Productivity Press.
The book has 206 pages divided into 8 main chapters. In them, the author Karyn Ross challenges the reader to rethink their ideas about the concepts such as leadership, kindness, and kind leadership.
In addition, each chapter presents case studies and reflections of leaders and the people they influence.
Karyn Ross is the founder of The Love and Kindness Project Foundation and The New School for Kind Leaders. In addition, she is the co-founder of Women in Lean - Our Table.
Karyn Ross is not only a visual artist, but also has charted an impressive career as an internationally acclaimed speaker, award-winning author, consultant, and coach.
In addition to having published five other books, Karyn travels the world teaching people her unique system of combining creativity, continuous improvement, and kindness to make a better world.
"The Kind Leader" is recommended for leaders or people who seek leadership positions, but feel the need for significant improvements in the relationships with their teams, increasing the organization's unity and synergy.
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Isn't leadership about 'strength'? About making tough decisions and having the fortitude to carry those decisions out no matter how difficult they are? And what about kindness? Don't kind people get walked all over? If leaders are too kind, how will they be able to make those inevitably tough decisions when the time comes?
Kindness is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of confidence. - Colin Powell
No, kindness is not a sign of weakness! We are used to the idea that it is weakness because we believe that there are only two options: to be loved or to be respected.
Assumptions like this arise from systems and models that shape our society and our conceptions about certain "concepts". For example, what is leadership for you? What about kindness, empathy, compassion?
See how Karyn Ross defines each one of them:
This is likely not how you would define a leader or leadership. It may be a wrong assumption, but perhaps you thought of more complex concepts or successful people. More specifically, dare we say, you thought of men like Elon Musk rather than women like Malala.
Unfortunately, the model of leadership where a man is always the leader leads to the assumption that leadership and kindness are not compatible because leadership is associated with strength and kindness with weakness.
And men are not kind, they are strong - which makes them natural born leaders. Women, however, are always kind, so we don't think of them when we talk about leadership.
But while kindness is often thought of as a weakness, it takes a lot of strength to consider the needs of others. So it is not your gender that defines your leadership ability or your strength, but your ability to consider needs other than your own.
Therefore, Karyn Ross defines the five characteristics of the kind leader:
You may have heard about Machiavelli's "The Prince" or perhaps the quote "the ends justify the means"? Despite its fame, Machiavelli never explicitly said this, but he implied that the prince (or leader) should pursue his goals at any cost, no matter what will be done.
But, it is important to point out that the main goal should be the common good. Therefore, the ends are as important as the means for a kind leader. The Machiavelian maxim that it is much safer to be feared than loved does not work with kind leaders.
Do you know why? Because they focus on the means and are not just "results oriented". They focus on the means and on creating a kind culture so that the people who do the work to create those results can flourish.
Thoughts create the words you speak and influence your actions and practices. Therefore, gentle leadership has two triads: the triad of practices and the triad of general behaviors.
The triad of practices, where each practice has its own behavioral triad, is composed as follows:
The general behavioral triad, on the other hand, is composed as follows:
For Karyn Ross, one of the best things about kind leadership is that when leaders act, react, and lead kindly, the result is more kindness from their followers, who imitate these behaviors in a variety of situations.
The practical consequence is the Kind Leadership Continuum. As they spread, kind leadership practices also lead to better ways for people and groups to interact together within organizations, in communities, in society at large, and around the world.
For the author there are 4 types of interaction:
And, many times, we end up being rude. Believe, this will happen because people are people.
As human beings, people have biases and negativity to spare, so it's hard not to engage in unkind ways of acting, reacting, and interacting with others.
Stay tuned for the top three reasons that cause insensitive leadership:
So what would be the solution to such a problem? Karyn Ross teaches you 5:
In "Everyone Matters" by Bob Chapman and Raj Sisodia, the ideals that should guide an organization that values people first and foremost are presented. In addition, this reading will bring an account of how a "humanized" company works in practice, using examples experienced in Chapman's company.
The book "Firms of Endearment", by Raj Sisodia, Jag Sheth, and David B. Wolfe, also addresses the idea of a "humanized" company and the fundamentals and practices adopted in this humanization process, thus demonstrating the way to transform your organization in the long term.
Finally, the book "O Melhor do Cortella", by Mário Sérgio Cortella, serves as a guide to make you reflect on our existence and our society and how assumptions, systems and models shape the world.
So, do you still think that leadership and kindness don't go hand-in-hand? Leave your opinion in the comments, your feedback is very important to us!
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